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Originally Posted by Acajack
No, I didn't mean that they should be referring to the "Chinese guy" or the "black guy" throughout the entire match. But I am not sure it should be verboten as it sometimes is (with some people anyway) to call up an office and ask to talk to "rousseau" (knowing that he's black for example) and have this conversation:
- "Well, there are two rousseaus here, you wouldn't happen to know his last name?"
- "Hmm, no. But the rousseau I am looking for is black, if that helps you".
There shouldn't be any awkwardness for stuff like that. Anymore than pointing out that rousseau is, say, a redhead.
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Is it? I'm not aware of that, but I don't work in an office. But I can't imagine that this scenario is something that people encounter all that often.
Probably people err on the side of caution by not blurting out "yeah, I'm looking for Frank, the black guy," because that does sound crude in light of the fact that for some much of our history Frank would have been called all kinds of other things.
If it really came down to someone at the other end of the phone asking me to describe someone, I suppose I would say something like he's "a black man about six feet tall." Now and then I've asked people in shops if they've seen my wife, a "tall Asian woman," and there's never any hesitation if they have (being that my wife looks so distinctive due to her height). In most places in Canada you can really narrow someone's identity down if they're a minority.
Funny, this actually brings to mind an interesting situation I experienced a few months ago. I went to a Tim Horton's in Kitchener to meet a guy to buy something he was selling on Kijiji. It was busy, so I went in, sat down, and texted him like this: "brown leather jacket white guy at entrance."
I don't know why I added "white guy" at the time, it just sort of came to me as an identifier. Kitchener isn't exactly Brampton or Mississauga, so chances are a random encounter with an online buyer/seller is going to involve another white person unless you can see that the name is Asian.
The seller turned out to be black. I couldn't help but find it a bit awkward, and hoped that he hadn't taken been taken aback by my wording. I was afraid he was wondering to himself: "how did he know I was black?" Because why else would I identify myself as white in lily-white Kitchener unless I'd seen or somehow knew that he was black, right? Maybe he thought I was trying to be amusing, i.e. "you're black, I'm white!"
Or maybe he didn't give it a second thought. There's a classic Chinese saying to describe my thinking in this situation: "You think too much!" It basically means "don't sweat it."
Which, I think, is essentially what you, Acajack. And I agree.