I know it feels like I am hammering you, wburg... Well, I am. However, my intent isn't to simply oppose you or be a jerk.
I actually agree with your vision, as I think it's often preferable to much of the crap that gets proposed. However, the realities of profits, investors, our market, and human nature temper my view.
Freedom is the most important thing to me, so any time I see a person's right to his/her property attacked (even if it's just a small attack), I'll get upset. So will most property developers and owners. It doesn't matter if the law allows for review and comment or not. It's human nature to protect what is yours.
So, you have to stroke developers a little to get what you want. If you stand up at a preservation meeting and say: "I don't like it, and I want an alternative. Yes, I haven't presented you with much data or any plans to convince you of my vision. Yes, you have been working on this proposal for months or years, and I am asking you to completely change it. Yes, my reason is almost pure sentimentality. But I don't care. Stop the process; start over and do it my way!"...I think you are gonna get a lot of opposition. Coloring your statements with eye roll-inducing, loaded rhetoric like, "facadism", "facadomy" and "encroaching on the footprint of the Marshall" probably won't appeal to a developer either.
You see, groups like the Old City Association and the Land Park Neighborhood Association historically oppose proposal after proposal. If I'm a developer, the last thing I'm gonna consider is rhetoric from a bunch of "hippies" and "NIMBYs". Before you even speak, certain people have already closed their mind. So be the bigger man.
You might do better as a consultant than you would as an activist. Consultants have respected advice, activists just have opinions.