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Originally Posted by Arrdeeharharharbour
...an excellent post...
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To answer a question posted earlier, the people I’m referencing in my social media posts are not living at home or even with roommates, they are all career professionals (some of them really well paid) with their own condo units (and some of them even houses!) but no marriage, no kids. I don’t know, after doing the same self-indulgent routine for two decades, it just seems so… repetitive and lacking in growth.
It’s obvious that they are unwilling to give up any of their own needs for the experience or raising others.
And it’s true, you do need to make sacrifices raising kids, you can go drinking and clubbing or have a juvenile fury DJ party at the local park whenever you want, and there is stress and trouble, but you also mature and actually learn a lot about yourself and life in general that you can’t any other way.
Raising kids isn’t about having fun, it’s about discovering joy.
Again, my family of 4 lives in a small two bedroom apartment. It hasn’t been a problem. As the kids get older, we are slowly saving up to expand a little.
And finally, having lived both without kids and with kids, you do get the opportunity to know both lived experiences (something those who don’t have kids can’t). I lived my first 33 years without kids, so I know the self-indulgent party life very well, I was very hesitant to give it up (my wife was the driving force for kids) but comparing the two lifestyles together now, I wouldn’t give up the hugs I get from my children for anything else.
And here is the catch, if too many people decide to take the “no kids” route, then that means no future generation, which then means a huuuuuge decline in living standards come the time when these people are at retirement age.