I think you guys should read
Dead End: Suburban Sprawl and the Rebirth of American Urbanism. It's an interesting and in-depth look at why NIMBYs NIMBY, and it changed how I think about them.
Oh, they're still horrible people. But I don't think it's all about stopping traffic or protecting views anymore. It explains why an ugly weedy lot is, to them, better than a benign use.