[skysoar]

I remember after first moving to Chicago, I took my wife to Marshall Fields department store downtown. I left her outside the store while secretly buying her a gift, when I came outside she was being verbally harassed by a panhandler, I stepped in and sent the guy away, he was vehemently upset. I later found out she being a social worker had spent a prolong time trying to counsel the guy, and then she walked away not giving him anything. After that we established a policy, no more counseling, if you are going to give a pan handler something ,no need to converse, do it and move on. And if you are not going to give them something, again don't converse , just move on.