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Originally Posted by kw5150
Do you have any idea how badly it hurt to realize I didnt fit the straight lifestyle and would not be having a wife and kids?
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While I can never fully appreciate it from the "other side" - as someone who has chosen to never have a wife or kids, I can at least partially relate. The societal pressure to conform on this one is perhaps stronger than any other thing I can think of. Other than to be straight, of course. Oddly enough, I find most people that I know are MORE accepting of gay people than they are a heterosexual who willingly chooses to not have children. As always, might just be the circles I run in. But I have received this comment several times: "At least gay people KNOW they won't have kids, it's a biological impossibility. But you're a f**king freak for
choosing not to when you easily could". Different pressures, and I won't even begin to argue that they're equal.
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On top of that I was told I could not get married. Kind of leaves a pit in the stomach. Please stop making it seem like gay life has been so easy when in fact, it has not. Were not all emotionless whores that dont care about family. lol
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Not at all what I was trying to get across, and I apologize if it came off like that. I was more thinking "within" the gay community - I don't think gay people, in general, have to filter potential partners out based on whether or not they want to reproduce with you. Again, there are other pressures that I can barely begin to understand.
But, as Chadillaccc points out - there are some interesting exceptions. I also know a number of gay people with kids from a straight relationship. Should have used "usually" instead of "always".